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REAL LOVE Part 5: The Danger in Omissions

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By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

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Photo Credit: Pia Kristine, 2010: Love

Ask yourself: Why do we censor what we tell people? Why do we take things personal? Why are we self-conscious?

Omissions may seem harmless, but this is how we begin to lose ourselves and our authenticity in a relationship. Tiny omissions are the start of a bigger disconnect. Our authenticity (and confidence) is compromised, along with openness and transparency, as we develop fears. The fear could be of rejection, abandonment, of losing another person, of feeling inferior or small or judged. No matter the reason, these omissions create a mask, piece by piece, for us. They begin to paint a picture of who we want to be seen as, or feel safe being seen as, not the whole truth of who we are. Smoke and mirrors. We are betraying the other person but most importantly, we are betraying ourselves. We can never be whole when we are disconnecting from a very real part of ourselves.

Austin O’Malley Said

Austin O’Malley said, “Those who think it is permissible to tell white lies soon grow color-blind.” These tiny subtleties, so woven into human nature, ultimately destroy relationships. Though mostly innocent and seemingly harmless, neglecting to be true to yourself and putting that mask on creates bigger issues. This is the very first step taken into a downward spiral. You can liken omissions and masks to marijuana: a gateway to bigger and “harder” or worse things. And they may very well be the beginning of the end. These small actions (or inactions) taken out of fear – and lacking love – all add up and together, create a rift between people. The great divide leads to a loss of self and an absence of understanding of one another. The whole picture isn’t being seen. With missing information, how can two people relate and build a solid footing? How can there be understanding of one another?

False Pretentions

If we pay close attention, relationships are a priceless chance to learn about ourselves in a big (real) way. When we allow ourselves to really feel into our fears, we can begin to release them and this will keep us on track and keep our ego in check. After all, it is our true self that the other person wants. Not some photoshopped version that looks pretty. And why on earth would we want someone in our life because of false presentations? It’s an awfully tiring job trying to be someone we are not and maintain that for the sake of salvaging some personal company. Wouldn’t you rather find and pluck the weeds right away, instead of coming to the realisation years later that this person isn’t right for you? I am sure you’ve heard it before, but the right people will love us for who we are, baggage and quirks and all. And they will be beside us helping us become all we are meant to be.

A Beautiful Quote

I read a beautiful quote recently. I couldn’t find the author to credit, but want to share it with you: Everyone that you meet comes with baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack. 

Real Love Sees All

Real love sees us and accepts us for all that we are. That is why it is so important to love ourselves unconditionally. If we cannot love ourselves, we will tolerate being treated in ways that are less than what we deserve. We are then at risk of falling into the traps of conditional love, allowing fear to dictate our relationships. Not to mention that one day, when we get fed up of carrying our masks with us, and our costumes become too heavy, and we finally reveal who we really are, the people in our lives can feel deceived and confused. And rightfully so.

Finding a Fulling Relationship

If you want a real shot at fulfilling relationships – and a fulfilling life – you’ve got to give it your all. And that includes showing all of who you really are, being upfront about what you really want and not bending your “non-negotiables” even temporarily.

We cannot change the past and the choices we have already made. And many times, we need to experience life and all of its challenges to grow. But with each new relationship (in each moment, really), we have the gift of choice. We can decide to remain authentic to ourselves and honest with the people in our life from the onset.

Stephen Arterburn

Stephen Arterburn said it simply, “We are as sick as our secrets.” It may not appear this way, but that which we bury inside and carry around affects us. We can brush it under the rug, ignore it, or justify it. But that doesn’t change the fact that we build our lives around our secrets. We do all we can to keep them hidden, to not risk their exposure. It can consume us and eat away at our brilliance. How can we shine if we are so busy pulling the light away from a very real part of ourselves? 

Acceptance

If the people in your circle can accept all of you, as you present yourself, you have the opportunity to grow closer. Both parties become more confident, and it gives you a chance to be brave. And that’s empowering. Living out of insecurities, on the other hand, pushes away and stifles real connections and you may as well crawl under a rock in a ball. Because no one is going to get to your core or reach you, anyway.  There are no long-term benefits of omissions.

Jimi Hendrix

Jimi Hendrix sang, “And so castles made of sand, melts into the sea eventually.” For a relationship to withstand time and all of the elements life throws at it, the foundation needs to be solid. A foundation built on falsities is much like the castle built of sand. Eventually, the sea (life) will swallow it up without a trace.

Unconditional Love

Unconditional love is acceptance. Acceptance of yourself, of others, of everything you really love. And it is trust. Trust that your real self will not be exploited, but instead welcomed with open arms. Trust that your real self is the path of least resistance and it won’t lead you astray. Omissions are fear-based, and therefore lacking love. If you desire unconditional love of any kind in your life, you’re going to have to be open for receiving. This means you’re also vulnerable because you are exposed. The reward far outweighs the risk…but, if you’re not ready, it’s just not going to happen. And that is okay. In divine time, we move into our own light.

If you’re willing to put down the mask and be brave today, a life awaits you, unlike anything you’ve ever experienced before. Once we begin to act authentically and with intentions that are in alignment with our true selves, everything seamlessly falls together. Serendipitous events occur, people are brought into our lives through synchronicity. Doors open for us, and opportunities pop up left and right. Life becomes much more fun, requiring less tedious work holding our masks up, and it’s liberating. And that’s what we are going for, after all, isn’t it?

Lovercise – Healing Exercises

For 24 hours, commit to monitoring your thoughts, body signals and the words you choose to speak. Catch yourself when you are about to censor what you say to someone. If you slip and speak or act inauthentically, forgive yourself. Don’t dwell on it. The purpose of this exercise is not to feel bad, or self-punish, but to learn about yourself. The absolute best thing you can do is slip, forgive yourself, then, reflect on why you chose to speak or act inauthentically.

  • Ask yourself these questions:
  • Why did I question speaking or acting my truth? What is the underlying fear? 
  • What “face” or mask am I putting on? What parts of me do I dislike or wish to hide? 
  • Why am I afraid of presenting this side of myself? 
  • Where did this embarrassment, shame or fear stem from? What story am I telling myself or what false belief do I have around this?
  • How does this fear – or this “face” I put on – seemingly serve me? 
  • What is the risk of speaking or acting authentically?
  • What is the cost of remaining inauthentic and living from fear? 
  • What is the benefit of living in alignment with my true self? 

It may behove you to keep a journal, recording the answers to your questions so you can reflect on them and look back at them at a later date. Additionally, a journal is a great place to keep a log of the things that come up for you as you commit to this journey of self-discovery and unconditional love. If, after 24 hours, you feel you would like to learn more and unravel the mysteries of your inner workings, please continue to do this exercise for as long as you see fit to accomplish your goal(s) of living true to yourself.

Next month I’ll cover “Being Tested.”

In this 11-part series, I have taken excerpts and information from my book, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self,” to teach about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also discuss how behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. I will then conclude with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’ At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul and should begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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HEALTH & NUTRITIONAL MEDICINE EXPERT FIONA TUCK EXPOSES COOKING OIL MYTHS

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Anyone who has been shopping lately knows how hard it is to find the right cooking oil. Many of us, including Fiona Tuck, nutritional medicine practitioner, stand in front of the shelves just gazing at the endless choices – canola, olive, avocado, and rice bran – the list just goes on-and-on. Then, we recall the latest research and other published findings, further complicating the issue further – don’t go for animal fats, vegetable is better. Hang on, it may be better to switch back. Duh-oh! So, which oil is the best for our health?

Well according to the myths, those oils that are well-known and loved may not be as good as first thought. According to a recent article published by Forbes based on data dusted off from five decades ago, switching from animal to veggie oil may not have been that clever. Sure, other studies have looked at oils, but the latest looks directly at heart health and consuming animal fat compared to corn oil. The results, astoundingly, say that animal oil is far better for health than vegetable. Well, in this case anyway.

1960s Research Dusted Off 

Research gathered from 9,400 mental hospital and nursing home patients, published in 1989, found that switching from animal fats to corn oil was beneficial for cholesterol, but it did not show whether or not the switch had any effect on heart health.

Dusting off the research sometime later, the team at NIH-University of North Carolina decided to check-out the findings in greater detail. They re-ran the entire data set and stats, then rechecked findings just to be sure.  Yes, vegetable oil contributed to lower cholesterol, but the people that ingested this oil have a significantly higher risk of heart conditions. Consequently, the team deduced that the original, incomplete data, led to misguided guidelines on what oils are better than others.

So, just what does Fiona Tuck have to say about this and other cooking oil myths? Let’s find out.

Fiona Tuck Looks at the Data

Just ask Fiona Tuck ‘The Myth Buster’ who has over 25-years of health and wellness industry experience as a Yoga teacher, nutritional medicine practitioner and skincare expert, about cooking oil, and she’ll blow those myths away in a single breathe.

“I agree that some vegetable oils such as corn oil may not be beneficial for health as once promoted. Some plant oils such as corn or canola oil blends can be highly refined, processed with heat or extracted with harsh solvents which can lead to oxidation of the oil. Combine this with plant oils that are high in omega 6 and you have the potential for these oils to promote inflammation within the body. Corn would be one such oil which would explain why animal fat is promoted over corn oil. Butter, for instance, contains importance fat soluble nutrients. Some plant oils, however, such as extra virgin olive oil have a heart-protective benefit due to their rich polyphenol content so not all plant oils are bad but corn oil, in my opinion, is not a good option.”

Other myths Fiona finds particularly controversial are:

Extra-Virgin Olive Oil Suits All Cooking

“Olive oil is a class favourite and has been given a great rap by consumers and health specialists. The production process is natural, involves minimal levels of interference and it is processed at a temperature (30°C) that will not degrade the olive oil.  With no chemicals or industrial refinement, it is easy to assume this product would be a great option for all your cooking needs, but the reality is olive oil has its limits. It is great as a salad dressing and perfect for bread dipping and drizzling over your dishes, but if you heat it to high temperatures, the vitamin E and polyphenolic compounds are compromised. Additionally, some olive oils are plant based and not pure olive oil so it can be a minefield out there to find one that is good quality.”

Coconut Oil Comes in Solid Form Only

“Despite its health benefits, the coconut oil market is limited when it comes to convenience. Coconut oil has a melting point of approximately 23 degrees Celsius and remains solid below that temperature. The majority of coconut oils on the market cannot retain liquid form, making it difficult for portion size and consistency in cooking. CocoEarth has introduced Australia’s first Liquid Coconut Oil (LCO). The cooking oil contains only the healthiest part of the coconut and discards the long chain fatty acids that remain solid at a lower temperature. LCO is the only coconut oil in Australia to stay in liquid form in all temperatures without going rancid. To create convenience for consumers, the company also has cold pressed extra-virgin coconut oil available in cube form. Shoppers should not need to make the decision between health and convenience, particularly given the over-saturation of choice on the market.”

Unrefined Oils are the Healthy Option

“The general consensus is that unrefined oils are best, but refined oil should not be disregarded. Refined cooking oil has a unique composition that can offer extended health benefits when formed through a non-chemical process, like expeller-pressing. Extreme pressure is used to extract the oil from raw materials such as nuts and seeds which can be used in place of external heat and chemicals. When these nut-based oils are expeller-pressed they become potentially less of a trigger for allergies. Picky eaters can also rest assured that oils such as coconut will not overwhelm their taste buds!

When Cooking All Fat is Unhealthy

“People underestimate the importance of dietary fats. They play a vital role in a balanced diet and can impart a wide range of positive health benefits. For a long time, coconut oil was frowned upon for its high-fat content, but some fats are essential to a healthy diet. The trick to finding the healthiest option lies in the type of fatty acid. Medium Chain Triglycerides (MCTs) are a unique form of dietary fat that has a shorter chain length (six to ten carbon links) than Long Chain Fatty acids (LCTs). The short chain structure offers unique properties and advantages and is a key component consumers should be searching for on the label. These MCTs provide consumers with a natural energy boost that can increase vital ketones and strengthen a person’s immune system and metabolism. The accelerated rate of metabolic conversion means fat isn’t stored but converted into fuel for immediate use by the body.”

Canola Oil Can Give You Cancer

“Although it is not the healthiest choice on the market, the claim that canola oil can give you cancer has no substantial evidence. There have however been numerous reports that link the genetically modified organisms (GMO) in canola oil to a number of health issues that affect the kidney, liver and neurological system. Over 90% of canola oil contains GMO, which means it is processed in an unnatural way that involves high heat, deodorisation and the toxic solvent hexane. Chemically or artificially enhanced products should not make the shopping list. Shoppers need to be extra cautious and know exactly what they are selecting off the shelf. Natural is always best, and it is important that the product you purchase ticks all the necessary boxes. The closer the product is to the source the better. Ingredients should be close to their roots and abide by organic and natural farming processes.”

What’s a Good An Alternative Oil?

CocoEarth’s Liquid Coconut Premium Oil contains more than 93% MCTs and is 1.5 times healthier than regular virgin coconut oil. It is 100% non-GMO, convenient to use and easy to digest. Its antimicrobial component, Lauric acid, can protect the body from harmful pathogens. Living up to its superfood name, CocoEarth’s LCO has proven to be great for weight loss, stress relief, memory retention and controlling blood sugar levels.

REAL LOVE Part 4: True Love Begins at Home

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By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

 

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Unconditional love is impossible to give out if you do not welcome it into your own home (your heart, mind, body and soul). Self-love is a requirement if you want to love someone else.

Dr Wayne’s Advice

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer said, “Make a pact to remind yourself often of this secret: you can’t give away what you don’t have, but you can change your life by changing what’s going on inside. Then work on your personal program of self-love, self-respect, and self-empowerment, and create a huge inventory of what you wish to give away. If what you give is self-respect and self-love, the universe will return the love and respect you’ve been radiating. It’s really so simple.”

Rumi and Love

If true love is what you wish to experience and receive, you need to embody true love in your own life. Rumi said, “Love is the bridge between you and everything.” All abundance permeates from the energy of love. On the other hand, “lack” is the cornerstone of fear. If you want to improve your life in a big way, you’re going to have to get on the Unconditional Love train.

So Where Does True Love Stem From?

You need to nurture yourself, nourish your body and soul, and feel good in order to have the space to love others in a real and true way (and to accept this type of love from others). If you begin to break down, you can not be anything to anyone. Loving someone else means loving yourself to good health and spirits so you can be there for them! Not only can you be there for them, but you will not become an emotional vampire trying to feed off of them to sustain your own wellbeing. Caring for yourself means you are independent and everything you need comes from the inside; you do not need to seek out external variables to feel good. Then, anything that comes into your life is a big bonus!

Ask yourself: If you treated others the way you treat yourself, would they want to be around you? 

Honour Thy Self

How you speak to yourself is so important to overall well-being. Loving yourself means honouring yourself and acting out in all the ways you would someone else that you love. Accept yourself for all parts of you, support and nurture yourself (be your own cheerleader), speak and act gently to that little child inside of you, and learn to let go of people, places or things that are no longer serving you! Prune away, trim the dead branches! Forgive yourself often. Forgive others. Boost yourself up. The bigger you are, the more of you there is to go around to others. The more love you have within yourself, the more you have to share with everyone!

In order to provide the space to love unconditionally, you must be loved up! And there’s no one better to do that – or able to – than the person staring at you in the mirror.

Next month I’ll cover “The Danger in Omissions.”

In this 11-part series, I have taken excerpts and information from my book, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self,” to teach about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive.

I will also discuss how behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. I will then conclude with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’ At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul and should begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

 

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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We like to hear what you have to say🙂

REAL LOVE Part 3: Relationships as Mirrors

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By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

 

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Relationships are the PERFECT opportunity to take a long, hard look in the mirror and examine all of our inner workings. If we pay attention to the signs we receive, how our body is responding, the intuition we feel and the lessons presenting themselves to us, we can learn a great deal about ourselves through our relationships.

Understanding Relationships

What we consider the best and worst relationships are an ideal expression and realisation of where we are at in our lives, mentally and emotionally. Sometimes the hardest relationships are our very best teachers. The mirror(s) we want to avoid at all costs may hold the most treasured gems for us. The exact nugget we need to help us release some old junk and free up space to start anew, allowing positive influences into shift into alignment with our path and authentic selves.

What We Learn from Relationships

There are various things we can learn – or insights we can gain – by utilising the patterns of our closest relationships to our advantage.

We may uncover:

  • Conditioning we have picked up from our experiences
  • Self-limiting beliefs we keep manifesting and reliving
  • Patterns of behaviour and toxic cycles we indulge in
  • Deep-seeded fears masked as (or in) defence mechanisms, patterns, behaviours, etc.
  • Stories we believe and tell ourselves to protect our heart
  • What we do or don’t want in future relationships
  • How we really feel about ourselves and our worth
  • Habits we need to work on to better our relationships (including the one with ourselves)
  • That the most infuriating traits of other people may be parts of ourselves we try to keep hidden or dislike
  • What our trigger buttons are and what they are trying to protect us from
  • How we are using relationships to stay stuck or procrastinate
  • Ways in which we can learn to love unconditionally
  • The reason certain people were placed in our lives, or have left our life
  • The importance and relevance of events in our lives and where they are leading us (our purpose)

The list may sound incredible, and sure, everyone wants to learn and grow! But, sometimes it’s so much easier said than done. To uncover some of these things, it may require you to open up old wounds to let them air out. You’ll certainly feel pain, again, as you learn to release all that was trapped within you on your road to healing. When we have fear and shut down, we trap the fear inside of us…along with all the icky feelings that coincide with it. In order to heal, we must let the pain out by feeling it and moving through it, rather than closing around it. It takes great courage to open yourself up to uncover the secrets hidden in your relationships. And it takes commitment. Commitment to growth, to abundance in your life, to make the hard decisions that may come along with opening your eyes.

Embrace Change

Change can be difficult, and committing yourself to this great adventure is no exception. You need to be willing to see things differently and accept everything that comes up for you during this process. But once you’re good and ready, it can and will be the most rewarding experience of your life. Opening up to unconditional love and expanding to a higher version of yourself is a priceless journey and an unforgettable one.

Next Month’s Article & the Series

Next month I’ll cover “Self-Love.”

In this 11-part series, you will learn about (real) Love and what it means. I have taken excerpts and information from my book, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self,” to teach readers about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also touch on behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. Lastly, I will then conclude the series with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’

At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul. You should also begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

Follow us on Twitter for more news, tips and inspiration.

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Don’t forget to leave us a comment.

We like to hear what you have to say🙂

REAL LOVE Part 2: Conditional vs. Unconditional Love

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By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

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There is a huge difference between conditional and unconditional love, though perpetrators of conditional love will have you think they are one in the same. That’s because we (the perps!) use what we believe to be “love” to manipulate and control.

However, that is not really love we are using; it’s simply a guise for underlying fear that we wrap up in a pretty bow and label “love.” With that being said, the two types – conditional and unconditional – could very well be worlds apart, even galaxies apart. And there are some very apparent identifiable distinctions.

How many times have you heard someone say (or have you thought yourself), “If he loved me, he would do A, B and C!” or “She must not love me, because she didn’t do X, Y, Z.” 

Love is confused and becomes muddled. We give it meaning, assign parameters on it, envision it a very specific way and that’s how we judge it from that point forward. “It is not love unless……(insert conditions here).” 

As with most things in life, measuring and comparing gets you nowhere fast. Nowhere healthy and meaningful and sustainable, anyway.

What is Conditional Love?

So, conditional love is just that: setting conditions upon love, which by its nature cannot be measured or contained in a pretty little box. Conditional love is judging based on certain criteria, guidelines and specific rules or limitations. Love – and the person you are loving – become prey to your ego and conditions. Things are only good when the conditions are met. If they are not met or exceeded, “love” changes and so do your feelings for that person. You may punish, argue, withhold your own “love” and affection, or respond with any number of tactics to let the person know that you are disappointed and not pleased. Conditional love ends up feeling not so great. This is one of the main alarm bells that goes off to signal that real love is not present.

What is Unconditional Love?

Unconditional love is real and true. It knows no boundaries and does not change because of anything external. It’s fluid, ever-evolving and feels so good. Unconditional love knows no fear. It is giving without expectation of receiving. It’s grateful and does not participate in any negative emotions or feelings or actions. Unconditional love treats others as a gift to cherish.

Understanding the Two Loves

It’s pretty simple: If you are feeling something negative (emotion, feeling, thought, action, etc.), the root is fear. Where there is fear, love is lacking. If you are feeling positive and light, the root is love.

Not feeling good is conditional love (what can I get from this?).

Unconditional love (what can I give or share?) feels great.

It may be beneficial to reflect a while on how you are giving and receiving both types of “love” in your life. Remember both kinds as you journey through the rest of the chapters in this book.

Next Month’s Article & the Series

Next month I’ll cover “Relationships as Mirrors.”

In this 11-part series, you will learn about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also touch on behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. Lastly, I will then conclude the series with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’

At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul. You should also begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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ARTISTIC ABS- FLATTER ABS IN A WEEK

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By Columnist Julie Rammal – International Celebrity Personal Trainer, Yoga and Pilates Pro:

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Photo Credit: InShape News, 2014 – Abs–

Every muscle and organ has its own function and task, but our core is the Queen of your body. It is the fundamental part of our body that keeps your posture upright, supports your back, keeps your immunity stable and keeps our major organs in position. Basically, if you did not have a core, you could not do 90% of things you do daily. So, begin loving your core.

Now that we all share something in common – abs, the question is who has the prettiest and best – designed abs? The way we train our abs can differentiate how our abs look like. For example, if you do heavy weight training you develop more of the 6 pack abs look. If you exercise holistically, you will develop a more natural look.

Here are some super fantastic workout videos that you can do in the convenience of your own home. Alternate these workouts every other day, for one week, and you’ll begin to notice a difference.

360 Degree Abs: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNrlNKjnGhw

Core Twister Revolution: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpLc2URn7ts

In case you do not have the internet, try the classic holistic ab routine below in 5-easy-steps.

  1. Lie down on your back, bend your knees, and places your hands behind your head. Inhale, elongate, your spine, and as you exhale lift your head and shoulders up and return back to starting position. Repeat 10-20 repetitions.
  2. From step one, keep your head and shoulders up and pulse 10-20 times and hold. Repeat 1-3 sets and return back to starting position.
  3. Elongate legs and arms as you lie down on your back. Slowly engage your abdominals and roll up to touch your toes and slowly roll back down. Repeat 10-15 reps.
  4. Lie down on your back and place your hands behind your buttocks. Elevate your legs 2-3 inches off the ground and hold for 10-30 seconds. Perform 1-3 sets.
  5. Lie down on your back and breathe in deeply through your nose and as you exhale, imprint your spine into the flow. Take 10-15 breaths to cool down from your session.

Love your abs, and they will love you back.

About Our Alternative Complimentary Medicine News and Review Columnist

Julie RammalJulie Rammal is an International Celebrity Personal Trainer, Yoga and Pilates Pro, and a leading holistic fitness and Ayurvedic practitioner. She has trained some of the biggest stars and Royal families in the middle east. Therefore, it is no wonder she is called, “The Middle East Princess of Holistic Fitness.”

Growing-up in over 40 countries, Julie has helped thousands of people to find themselves by connecting back to their body and mind. Her diverse fitness background in: Aerobics, dance, gymnastics, Pilates and  Yoga have led her to create the first holistic fitness DVD that focuses on changing, connecting, and training the body and mind together in a 2-week program to make you younger, firmer, and slimmer! Her recently produced DVD, “IN LIGHT OF CHANGE” (52 minutes, www.jsport.co) was a huge hit seller.

Julie demonstrates a variety of fitness moves inspired by aerobics, primal movements, stretching, Yoga and Pilates. She honors the mind and body. Julie focuses on spreading her messages of natural holistic fitness, health, and motivation to inspire our current and next generation to connect to a healthier and naturally fitter, stress free population.

 

Disclaimer: The information published in this column are based on the author’s own professional and personal knowledge, and opinion. This information and opinion are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment of any manner. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

REAL LOVE Part 1: What is Love?

REIKI NEWS & REVIEW:

By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

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Photo Credit: Willian Soares, 2011: Love

The word “love” is one that is thrown around and misinterpreted often.  We all want to share love with someone, to give and receive love, to feel loved. But, the term “love” has so many different versions and its meaning has become rather subjective…and diluted.

Understanding Love

Love is a ruling theme in our lives (well, duh, it’s what we came from and what we always return to). We search for it during all stages of development, from childhood to adolescence, to adulthood and into our golden years, and as we begin to fade out of this world into the next one. We seek out love from our parents, family, peers, employers, acquaintances, just to name a few.

We find ways to measure someone’s love – and our own – and use that to build a case for or against them. Love is used as a guise for fear, insecurities, voids and deep-seeded issues we have yet to resolve within ourselves. It’s so relevant to our existence here on Earth, as Human beings. But, we have become so far removed from the actual meaning of love. This begs the question, what is love – real and true – anyway?

And while we’re at it, how about chewing on these additional questions and/or beliefs for a bit:

  • Is “love” born or birthed? Or can it be created, built?
  • Is it about the person our focus is on or is it about ourselves and our inner world?
  • Is our “love” for another person, or is it a space that is safe for us?
  • If we desire love so damn badly, what exactly happens during the evolution of a relationship to break down or diminish what we feel is love?

Love Defined

Love is something so relevant, so powerful and encompassing, yet we all have our own interpretation of what it is. Some versions are watered down, some are based on magical fairytales we hear as a child, and some are developed by watching those around us as we were growing up. No matter what the specifics, love has become a subjective term, verb and noun.

Real love is sort of like faith. It’s so big and so divine, we just have no idea how to conceptualise it or put it into words. It’s so much bigger than us, yet it is us. That’s right, we are love. We are magnificent love and light, poured into a physical form. We – love – are much like the sun, radiating in a world free of limitations and fear.

Love is free and unlimited. It cannot be contained, it cannot be diminished or destroyed. It’s void of time and space. It recognises interconnectivity amongst all things. It’s the one breath of life that touches each and every living organism. It is the voice of the soul, the whisper of the heart, and holistic remedy for the body.

Love cannot be quieted when it has a message to share. Love is not prejudiced, and it is not blind; love sees through eyes that are as clear as the sky is blue.

Love is soft. It blossoms like the sweetest and most beautiful flower, giving its nectar away for all that pass by in need.

Love is a hand, a hug, a touch or a nudge. It’s what you need when you need it. The warm embrace that makes you feel safe and comfortable. But it is also that swift kick to your rear-end at the exact moment you are in need of one.

Love embraces, appreciates, and holds space for others to feel safe, whole and never alone. Love walks beside you every day, to support and play. Love stands behind you so you cannot fall. Love walks in front of you, to encourage you on.

Love is eternal. It has no end, evolving from one form to another, and back, again.

The Love Scripture

For many years now, I have found this scripture to be very much accurate in its depiction of real and genuine, timeless love:

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 New International Version (NIV)

4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8. Love never fails.

Therefore, it can be said that:

Love is everything.

Love is who we are. It’s the fabric we are woven from.

Love is all there is.

Next Month’s Article & the Series

Next month, I will discuss, “Conditional vs. Unconditional Love.”

In this 11-part series, you will learn about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also touch on behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. Lastly, I will then conclude the series with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’

At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul. You should also begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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REIKI HEALING Part 12: Fear and Love

REIKI NEWS & REVIEW:

By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:

 

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Photo Credit: BK, 2015: Symphony of Love

There are two things in life that drive most of what we do and say: fear and love. While we often confuse the two emotions as we are faced with decision-making and forming thought processes, it is imperative to understand the difference and how the events in our life show up as a result of our original intentions.

What is Love?

Love is all that we are; it’s our true essence, our natural way of being. When we are living out of love, we are heart-centered, and we think about and believe all that feels good to us, which is uplifting and inspiring. Our choices give us a sense of peace and empowerment.

What is Fear?

When we are living in fear, we are often get confused and nervous, and the decisions we make don’t feel right. We may feel anxious or have a gut-reaction to what we do, say or decide. When we are concerned about choosing the “right” or “wrong” thing, that worry is a clear indication that we are basing our decisions and building our life around fear.

Love Driven Decisions

When we make choices based on love, we are rewarded. Love keeps us in active alignment with our higher beings, the divine, our connection to ‘All There Is’. Anything chosen, spoken or done out of alignment produces positive results for us and for the highest good of all involved. Without resistance, and with clear thinking, listening to our inner guidance, we are brought to a place where we want to be almost effortlessly.

Fear Driven Decisions

On the other hand, when we make choices based on fear, then often times that we fear present themselves. By resisting our own alignment and inner guidance system, we may attract what we do not want. Consequently, we are frequently validating our thoughts. Therefore we worry and are anxious about being shown that “we were right” to fear in the first place.

Overcoming Fear with Love

Keeping in mind that our vibration is what attracts the situations in our life (people, places and things). Therefore, it’s vital to make a conscious effort to keep your thoughts positive, and your heart open. What do you wish to attract? Whatever you focus on, that is what you will receive. Being in love gives us clear-thinking and connects us to our innate wisdom. Our bodies are a barometer that is telling us where we are at during any given moment. Listen to your gut, to the wisdom of your heart and soul, and do what feels good to you.

Check in with yourself often and ask, “am I choosing this because I am afraid of the outcome or am I choosing this because it feels right to me?”

Remember, the Universe does not know the word “no,” so anything you think about is a “yes!” If you focus on what is unwanted in your life, you are thereby saying yes to it and inviting more of it in. If you instead concentrate on what feels good and right, you are saying yes to more of the good stuff. Additionally, we hear spoken words without speech. Your vibration, while silent, is still sent out into the world and solidified into form and matter (“thoughts become things,” Mike Dooley). Your thoughts, beliefs and feelings are heard and felt, rearranging your external world accordingly.

Stay focused on the good in your life, always be grateful for what is, choose out of love for yourself and what feels right, and watch your life unfold in the most magical and unpredictable way.

Next Month’s Article

Next month, I will begin an 11-part series on ‘Understanding and Living Love’. In this 11-part series, you will learn about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them to unleash unique opportunity, and to heal parts of ourselves. I’ll also focus on how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also discuss how

Furthermore, I will also discuss how behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. I will then conclude with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself)’. At the end of the 11-part series, readers should have a better understanding of the inner workings of their mind, heart and soul and should begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in their relationships and their life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki Practitioner, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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Chad Chesmark: The Law of Attraction More Than Just Hocus Pocus

 

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Photo Credit: Brad Cooper, 2010: Universal Law

Chad Chesmark, motivational speaker, and hypnotist, has spoken out about the Universal Law of Attraction. Chesmark says that there was a time that he thought this law was just pure hocus pocus. Now he says his views have changed.

Standing on stage at the age of six, as an amateur magician began Chad Chesmark’s career, though he didn’t know this at the time. Many shows and years later, Chesmark knew what he wanted to do with the rest of his life. He longed to be a better performer, and, of course, speaker. Now armed with several university degrees that focus on communication, sociology, public relations, and theatre arts, Chesmark, a certified hypnotist, speaks at corporate and public functions, and to teams about leadership. He’s in demand, and he’s exceptionally good at what he does, because he loves speaking and motivating, and this shines through at every performance.

But when you ask Chesmark about his belief in the Law of Attraction, he laughs. “The Law of Attraction is clouded in myth, dogma, and the metaphysical. But, it doesn’t have to be that way.”

Chesmark says that he used to be a sceptic and one that was hard-core. So-called “gurus” had tarnished the Law and tried to make it into something that it simply wasn’t. This aspect was the one single point, says Chesmark, which drove him crazy.

However, in saying this, Chesmark admits this didn’t stop him applying the Law of Attraction to his life goals. Why? Well, because he knows that the Law works, and incredibly well.

So, what are the basics of this Law? Well, simply put, you focus your attention on what you want to achieve, rather than letting all those negatives such as fears, worries and frustration, get the better of you. Just like when you learnt to drive. You needed to focus on where you wanted to go, rather than looking at that big tree on the side of the road. Watching the tree will take you there, said your driving instructor. You visualised this and couldn’t help but flinch from the pain. So, you forgot the tree and focused on the path ahead, so you safely get from A to B in one piece. The same principal also applies to anything we do – push bike or motorbike riding, skating, skiing, and even life. Look where you want to go, and this is the direction you’ll take.

The key to mastering the Law, though, is not thinking consciously about change says Chesmark. It’s allowing your subconscious to lead the way. Rather than fixating on knowing how to apply the Law, don’t think at all. Let your subconscious to take control.

Chesmark says the secret to getting the Law of Attraction to work comes from reprograming your subconscious mind. You need to hear the positive, talk positively, and visualise the positive. A little like hear no evil, speak no evil, and see no evil, but with a far better outcome.  Therefore, if you want to be debt free, you need to listen to ways to build wealth, tell yourself you have great wealth, and visualise your bank account statement in credit.

Send out positive vibrations, and you will attract a positive outcome. The Law of Attraction is that simple.

YOUR BODY’S VOICE- LEARNING HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR BODY

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By Columnist Julie Rampal – International Celebrity Personal Trainer, Yoga and Pilates Pro:

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Photo credit: Andre Pierre du Plessis, 2010 – Give it Away

Holistic Fitness is a new anti-aging workout that’s designed to help you survive the new technological wave and future. This methodology, created by Julie Rammal, is used by celebrities, the royal family, and many families worldwide. The workout was kept a secret for years and is extremely popular because it delivers result in just 3 training sessions with over 15 major benefits including its anti-aging, slimming and firming effects. However, the true secret is that holistic fitness listens and communicates with your body.

On a quick note, holistic fitness contains the finest ingredients of ancient and modern fitness practices, and alternative and complementary medicine and is truly the future of movement. It combines the best of Aerobics, Pilates, and Yoga, as well as Primal Movements, Martial Arts, and Dance, along with Stretching, and focuses on being connected to nature. How cool is that?

Reconnecting to Your Body

In this century, most of us have lost complete connection to ourselves and continue to disconnect more with artificial surroundings, toxic food, and poor posture, also stress, and technology. We have also lost the ability communicate with our body and to heal ourselves. It seems as if humans have lost their natural ability to know what is right or wrong. However, this problem can be overcome by listening to your body.

How to Listen to Your Body

To begin to listen to your body, try this exercise routine daily for 5-10 minutes until you can finally hear your own body.

Step 1: Shut down all noise and find a comfortable place to lie down on

Step 2: Close your eyes and begin to focus on your breath

Step 3: Let go of all physical tensions and become aware of any physical tensions that remain on your body (shoulders, back, neck, hips, etc..)

Step 4: Use your subconscious to place your hand instinctively wherever it wants to go on your body.

Step 5: Wherever your hand went is a place where the body needs attention, and potentially there could be something going on there. Begin to meditate on this area for the remaining 5-10 minutes and notice if any colours, messages start to arise.

Remember, this practice takes awhile to hear your body communicate. But once you understand the principal the results will astound you.

Visit the J Sport YouTube or Facebook site to help you learn even more:

J Sport YouTube – Positive Inner J

J Sport Facebook – Facebook Page

About Our Alternative Complimentary Medicine News and Review Columnist

Julie RammalJulie Rammal is an International Celebrity Personal Trainer, Yoga and Pilates Pro, and a leading holistic fitness and Ayurvedic practitioner. She has trained some of the biggest stars and Royal families in the middle east. Therefore, it is no wonder she is called, “The Middle East Princess of Holistic Fitness.”

Growing-up in over 40 countries, Julie has helped thousands of people to find themselves by connecting back to their body and mind. Her diverse fitness background in: Aerobics, dance, gymnastics, Pilates and  Yoga have led her to create the first holistic fitness dvd that focuses on changing, connecting, and training the body and mind together in a 2-week program to make you younger, firmer, and slimmer! Her recently produced DVD, “IN LIGHT OF CHANGE” (52 minutes, www.jsport.co) was a huge hit seller.

Julie demonstrates a variety of fitness moves inspired by aerobics, primal movements, stretching, Yoga and Pilates. She honors the mind and body. Julie focuses on spreading her messages of natural holistic fitness, health, and motivation to inspire our current and next generation to connect to a healthier and naturally fitter, stress free population.

 

Disclaimer: The information published in this column are based on the author’s own professional and personal knowledge, and opinion. This information and opinion are not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment of any manner. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

 

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