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REAL LOVE Part 3: Relationships as Mirrors


By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:


Photo Credit: Luke Hayfield, 2010: Ever Yours –

Relationships are the PERFECT opportunity to take a long, hard look in the mirror and examine all of our inner workings. If we pay attention to the signs we receive, how our body is responding, the intuition we feel and the lessons presenting themselves to us, we can learn a great deal about ourselves through our relationships.

Understanding Relationships

What we consider the best and worst relationships are an ideal expression and realisation of where we are at in our lives, mentally and emotionally. Sometimes the hardest relationships are our very best teachers. The mirror(s) we want to avoid at all costs may hold the most treasured gems for us. The exact nugget we need to help us release some old junk and free up space to start anew, allowing positive influences into shift into alignment with our path and authentic selves.

What We Learn from Relationships

There are various things we can learn – or insights we can gain – by utilising the patterns of our closest relationships to our advantage.

We may uncover:

  • Conditioning we have picked up from our experiences
  • Self-limiting beliefs we keep manifesting and reliving
  • Patterns of behaviour and toxic cycles we indulge in
  • Deep-seeded fears masked as (or in) defence mechanisms, patterns, behaviours, etc.
  • Stories we believe and tell ourselves to protect our heart
  • What we do or don’t want in future relationships
  • How we really feel about ourselves and our worth
  • Habits we need to work on to better our relationships (including the one with ourselves)
  • That the most infuriating traits of other people may be parts of ourselves we try to keep hidden or dislike
  • What our trigger buttons are and what they are trying to protect us from
  • How we are using relationships to stay stuck or procrastinate
  • Ways in which we can learn to love unconditionally
  • The reason certain people were placed in our lives, or have left our life
  • The importance and relevance of events in our lives and where they are leading us (our purpose)

The list may sound incredible, and sure, everyone wants to learn and grow! But, sometimes it’s so much easier said than done. To uncover some of these things, it may require you to open up old wounds to let them air out. You’ll certainly feel pain, again, as you learn to release all that was trapped within you on your road to healing. When we have fear and shut down, we trap the fear inside of us…along with all the icky feelings that coincide with it. In order to heal, we must let the pain out by feeling it and moving through it, rather than closing around it. It takes great courage to open yourself up to uncover the secrets hidden in your relationships. And it takes commitment. Commitment to growth, to abundance in your life, to make the hard decisions that may come along with opening your eyes.

Embrace Change

Change can be difficult, and committing yourself to this great adventure is no exception. You need to be willing to see things differently and accept everything that comes up for you during this process. But once you’re good and ready, it can and will be the most rewarding experience of your life. Opening up to unconditional love and expanding to a higher version of yourself is a priceless journey and an unforgettable one.

Next Month’s Article & the Series

Next month I’ll cover “Self-Love.”

In this 11-part series, you will learn about (real) Love and what it means. I have taken excerpts and information from my book, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self,” to teach readers about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive. I will also touch on behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. Lastly, I will then conclude the series with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’

At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul. You should also begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.

About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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