For a long time, many of us have fallen victim to flashy magazines and Instagram models that are difficult to avoid. No matter where you look if there’s something fashionable, there are probably unrealistic expectations following right behind it. These days, it’s common for people to be extremely obsessed with their personal looks, brands, and how their outward appearance is. In fact, if you’re not using excessive amounts of filters and image processing, then you may as well not post on social media.
But it doesn’t need to be this way. We can look at fashion in a positive way and do away with unconstructive ways of thinking that may not be empowering us.
Let’s look at two constructive ways now.
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#1 Learning to love your body as you are
It can be difficult to learn how to love your body. However, you can use positive self-talk and the affirmation ‘I am enough‘, when someone makes you feel less of a person than you are. If you say this often when others judge you, eventually you’ll reach a point where you just stop caring about what other people think.
One of the problems that come with modern lifestyles is that we’re always on social media. We’re always looking at magazines. And we always see adverts of women with perfect skin and amazing bodies. So, we compare ourselves to others.
While there are certainly people like that in the world, the majority of the images we see are not actually real. Thanks to image processing programs such as Photoshop, the images we see are made to look better than reality. Loads of Instagram models and social media influencers use more than just makeup to look stunning. These changes to images create an unrealistic expectation of what we then perceive as beauty.
As such, we should try to either try steer clear of those sources of influence or we should view them for what they actually are—very good adaptions of reality. Then when it comes to looking at our own body we can view it in a more positive light and look at fashion that accentuates our best features, and not what looks good on an Instagram or magazine model. Instead, we should be looking at our own body, our own tastes, and ultimately make ourselves happy with the fashion that we choose to wear.
#2 Wear what makes you powerful
Confidence is key when it comes to approaching modern fashion. You shouldn’t think so much about what others might think of you. Instead, you should choose items that make you feel powerful, confident, and happy.
You could look for the perfect bandage dresses on the internet, you could browse your local stores, or you can even take a look at your own wardrobe to see if you have any powerful pieces that really make you feel like yourself. At first, this might feel awkward or difficult if you’re not used to wearing different kinds of clothes or if you pick fashion pieces that are subtle and don’t stand out. While there’s nothing wrong with this, exploring different clothing choices can help you discover your own sense of style.
And this is usually the hardest part–finding a style of clothing or colours that really suit you as a person.
Finding your style isn’t easy. It takes a lot of trial and error, and you may even need to look at those dreaded social media pages for inspiration. However, if you’re willing to separate the real from the fake and see through all of the hype, you might find some pieces that are special, unique, and really make you feel the most comfortable you’ve ever been.
The enjoying part of finding the right fashion for you though is trying on lots of different clothes. Eventually, you’ll stumble upon your style, and what makes you feel really comfortable and most importantly powerful.