Tag: World

Being true to ourselves, saying what we mean and meaning what we say are certainly key components of a free life. And we all say we want honesty from other people in our lives. In fact, it’s usually high on our list of “must-haves” for a relationship. People get so hung up on it, though, that they spend all too much time over-thinking and questioning others’ words and actions looking for loopholes and evidence of dishonesty. That’s the ego, again. Afraid to get burned, it becomes the grand investigator and leaves no stone unturned in its pursuit of dirt.

As humans, we run the risk of falling into the trap of the rat-race, the “chase the carrot” lifestyle. I will never forget how hard I laughed during the Landmark Forum the day the teacher gave us the chasing-the-carrot analogy. The reason I was laughing so hard that I almost choked was because it was true.

It was only a couple days into my 90-day experiment (of finding truth, understanding and real love and connection during the onset of a new relationship) that I began to suffer at the hands of the big fat “F.” That would be fear, ladies and gentlemen. I kept a written log for a couple of months, to record how I was feeling, what came up for me, and to reference it as this journey progressed. They were just words, quick thoughts, concepts and feelings. I tried to jot them down as soon as they came up. [I do suggest this as an exercise for anyone that is willing to take a peek within and begin working through what’s really going on inside.]