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REAL LOVE Part 4: True Love Begins at Home


By Columnist Camille Lucy – Certified Holistic Health Coach & Reiki Practitioner:



Photo Credit: Ham Za Butt, 2010: Love

Unconditional love is impossible to give out if you do not welcome it into your own home (your heart, mind, body and soul). Self-love is a requirement if you want to love someone else.

Dr Wayne’s Advice

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer said, “Make a pact to remind yourself often of this secret: you can’t give away what you don’t have, but you can change your life by changing what’s going on inside. Then work on your personal program of self-love, self-respect, and self-empowerment, and create a huge inventory of what you wish to give away. If what you give is self-respect and self-love, the universe will return the love and respect you’ve been radiating. It’s really so simple.”

Rumi and Love

If true love is what you wish to experience and receive, you need to embody true love in your own life. Rumi said, “Love is the bridge between you and everything.” All abundance permeates from the energy of love. On the other hand, “lack” is the cornerstone of fear. If you want to improve your life in a big way, you’re going to have to get on the Unconditional Love train.

So Where Does True Love Stem From?

You need to nurture yourself, nourish your body and soul, and feel good in order to have the space to love others in a real and true way (and to accept this type of love from others). If you begin to break down, you can not be anything to anyone. Loving someone else means loving yourself to good health and spirits so you can be there for them! Not only can you be there for them, but you will not become an emotional vampire trying to feed off of them to sustain your own wellbeing. Caring for yourself means you are independent and everything you need comes from the inside; you do not need to seek out external variables to feel good. Then, anything that comes into your life is a big bonus!

Ask yourself: If you treated others the way you treat yourself, would they want to be around you? 

Honour Thy Self

How you speak to yourself is so important to overall well-being. Loving yourself means honouring yourself and acting out in all the ways you would someone else that you love. Accept yourself for all parts of you, support and nurture yourself (be your own cheerleader), speak and act gently to that little child inside of you, and learn to let go of people, places or things that are no longer serving you! Prune away, trim the dead branches! Forgive yourself often. Forgive others. Boost yourself up. The bigger you are, the more of you there is to go around to others. The more love you have within yourself, the more you have to share with everyone!

In order to provide the space to love unconditionally, you must be loved up! And there’s no one better to do that – or able to – than the person staring at you in the mirror.

Next month I’ll cover “The Danger in Omissions.”

In this 11-part series, I have taken excerpts and information from my book, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self,” to teach about (real) Love and what it means. I will discuss how relationships are the backbone of our existence, how we can utilise them for the unique opportunity to see parts of ourselves needing to be healed, and how loving ourselves is the greatest gift we can give and receive.

I will also discuss how behaviour patterns such as fear, omissions, trigger buttons and desires tie into our relationships and ultimately the quality of our lives. I will then conclude with the ‘Top 5 Ways to Truly Love Someone (and Yourself).’ At the end of the 11-part series, you should have a better understanding of the inner workings of your mind, heart and soul and should begin to feel more joy, love and fulfilment both in your relationships and your life in general.


About Our Reiki News and Review Columnist – Camille Lucy

Camille LucyCamille Lucy is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, Certified Reiki & Raindrop Technique Practitioner, Ordained Holistic Minister, graphic and web designer, business consultant, and Vice President of a local non-profit that “rehabilitates people through animals.” She is also a writer, a Mother of 3-girls, an artist, a Life-and-Love Junkie, a Self-Expression and Development advocate, and – well, you get the point. She’s a lot of things, just like all of us. Camille is also author of, “The (Real) Love Experiment: Explore Love, Relationships & The Self.” Learn more about her and her adventure(s) at www.CamilleLucy.com or on social media at @LiveFullToday.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column is the author’s professional opinion, and based on their knowledge. This information and opinion are not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment in any way. Always seek the advice of your physician or another qualified health provider with any questions you may have about any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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