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7 Ways To Tame Your Inner Mean Girl


By Columnist Bianca Aiono – Mind Body Performance Coach:

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Your inner mean girl is that part of you that holds all those fragmented memories of when you were hurt or scared; the internalized voices of our parents and teachers. Like an over-protective mother she just wants you to stay safe and feel loved and important, and she thinks she’s ‘doing it for your own good’. Whereas, your authentic self knows you are perfectly imperfect and all your dreams are possible.

The trick is to understand that both the ‘good voice’ and the ‘bad voice’ truly do want what’s best for you, and they are each desperately trying to get it, but they just have a completely opposite understanding of how to get you there. Instead of trying to fight your inner-ego, we can give both sides a reality check and choose to love them equally. This way you can be in alignment with your dreams, rather than yo-yoing between living them and resisting them.

Seven ways you can achieve this are as follows:

Stop being offended

Remember, people are only doing the best they can with the tools they’ve got. There will be people who love you, people who hate you, and people who don’t care two hoots about you – but none of it has anything to do with you.

Resist the need to win

You are not your trophies or your victories. You may enjoy competing and enjoy being in a world where winning is everything, but you don’t have to use that to measure your worth as a person. Be an observer and enjoy yourself without needing to win a medal.

Let go of needing to have more

No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your inner ego will insist that it isn’t enough.

Forego the urge to be superior

There will always be people worse than you and people better than you, but no one will ever be the same as you.

Stop needing to be right

There are three sides to every story: your side, their side and the truth.

Don’t judge yourself based on achievements

You are not the sum of your performances.

Go beyond how you look

The way you look does not define you, your personality, beliefs and values do. You are a beautiful soul living in an exquisite machine.

If you want to find out more on how to get these two sides of yourself working together towards you health and fitness goals, subscribe to my free video series here http://bit.ly/1MSXIxS.

About Our Mind Body News and Review Columnist – Bianca Aiono

BianceBianca Aiono is a woman on a mission – to help women wake-up from the spell that says, “I’ll Be Happy When I Lose the Weight.” Bianca’s mind body weight loss methodology treats excess weight as a symptom of an underlying condition – and strongly refutes losing weight is just about exercising more and eating less.

An elite athlete since she was 14, Bianca competed internationally in 6 different sports – but for years struggled with her weight as always “the big girl”, which saw her lose and gain back the same 15 kilos again and again over a 15-year span. At her best, this included winning Bodysculpting Championships and CrossFit titles and bingeing, purging and starvation diets at her worst. But she wouldn’t change a thing because it helped her realise that self-love and approval are the best fat burners of all.

As a Mind Body Performance Coach, Bianca is dedicated to helping women get off the ‘diet-misery-go-round’ and sculpt their healthiest body without gimmicks or slaving in the gym. Her philosophy “Gain Life to Lose Weight” is aimed at helping alleviate the major causes of excess weight – physical, mental and emotional stress.

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Disclaimer: The information published in this column are based on the author’s own professional and personal knowledge, and opinion. This information and opinion is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment of any manner. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding any medical condition and consult a qualified medical professional before beginning any nutritional program or exercise program. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on InShape News.

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